Lately I've been wondering if my idea of love is completely skewed.
Are my expectations of what it should feel like just far higher than the emotion itself? Am I being unrealistic?
I only ask because it seems that there are a lot of people throwing that word around in a very serious way, and it just seems so easy.
Am I the one making it hard?
I feel exactly the same. I think that because I'm forever reading great love stories, writing about the perfect guy and watching films/tv with thick romance and perfect couples, that I now have such a high expectation of love that it's too high to be realistic.
I live in a total fairy land when it comes to love, I want it to be the great romance I've dreamt it being.
Yet as I dream of the most perfect romance and the hottest, most intelligent, amazing guy, I look around me and realise that no one really has the fairytale I dream of. What makes me any different? Why would I get the dream life when it doesn't happen to anyone else? Still a girl can dream right?
Hopefully my dreaming won't destroy my chances of happiness in the future...anyway, I'll stop rambling - that seems to be a talent of mine.
Hi,
here we are 3 girls in the same state of minds, and I guess we're not really an exception. And your stories won't help! (that's how I ended here btw). I've been with someone for a long time, and I keep waiting for the whirlwind and butterflies. It kinda felt like that in the beginning but I was 17 and inexperienced. Any handsome boy would have had me thrilled!lol
But here we are today, women and experienced and the "just a simple touch-thing" is not really happening. It seems like love requires efforts whereas it should be effortless. Love is clumsy whereas it should be fairy-tale like. You expect fireworks and you get mere sparkle. lol
But, for my part, I started expecting more from love and being quite disappointed, from the moment I started watching this damned TV show which tell you about that true love always. That kind of love and connection that you know aren't REAL but you can't help yourself wanting it for you.
And reading your stories really don't help me get this straight! lol I keep fooling myself, and pouting because I don't and will never have that. My brain knows it for sure, but my heart is just too stubborn to surrender to that truth. However, I get the feeling that is mainly a girl thing (as I have other female friends that have told me about it.). And lately, I had this freaking conclusion "girls have romance like boys have porn". I mean basically, when the average girl want to indulge herself, she reads passionate love stories. But, if the average guy wants to indulge, he'll grab some Playboy. And that tells there is a world between us... And I just can't figure it out if it shouldn't be that way, or if it just IS that way.
Sorry for the rambling, but I needed to say all that to get my point. :-)